The Life of a Home Mom

Letter To My Younger Self

To My Younger Self:

I’m not really sure what to tell you. Ummm we are currently a month before we turn 37 and have 5 kids. Yes, I said 5. I know you weren’t even considering kids your Senior year but you ended up having 5. Actually our oldest child will be graduating this school year. Wow right?  haha bet that is blowing your mind right?

Sometimes in life people are going to say things that they don’t really know much about. They say what they think is right, in reality they just don’t always know. In your case, they were wrong. See, those people didn’t know what they were talking about because you will do anything for your kids. You love them so much you can’t even begin to contemplate the amount at this age.

Your Senior Year will be full of Trials, it’s Okay

All you know is it is your senior year and you are having a difficult life at the moment. Before I move on I want to tell you that you have such a relationship with your children that some will be jealous and not understand, others will hate you but the best part is your children adore you and you adore your children. You would do anything for your children.  I want you to know that while it may seem terrible and hard right now, you will get through this time period. Everything you do in life, you do it for them.

Younger Self

What Your Future Holds

You will get married to Daniel and stay married. Yes, that means you had all 5 children with him. You aren’t remarried, divorced, single or anything like that. But you are a home mom, shocker right? No, you did not go off and join the Coast Guard or any other service and ya’ll didn’t stay in the military. He would go as far as he could but they won’t let him re-enlist. I tell you this now in case by some miracle I could go back and read this and fix a few errors. He will believe they are keeping him in until a month before he is booted to which he will need to find a job. There will be a downward spiral while he goes through this time, it will almost ruin you, but somehow you all manage to pull through.

Dear Younger Self, Forgiveness Does Come.

During the next 18 years of your life you will go through so many trials, in fact no one would ever believe them if they read them. You wouldn’t even believe them and in just your 18 years you have a ton of stories to tell. I know you don’t like thinking about the past right now, but in 18 years you will have forgiven for the past. You know that what happened happened and there is nothing anyone can do to change it. You will finally accept it and start moving away from the anger and the pain. You will find you move about 18 different times and not all will be military moves, in fact you will find yourself living in hotels more often then not. Eventually you will move away from it in order to improve the life of your children. You will end up back in the state of which everything happened, but due to this you will recover from your past at the same time. You just need to write that book.

To My Younger Self Life May Get Derailed but it Gets back on Track

You will find that your life is full of hard times, laughter, love, friendships and so much more. Some of those friendships will end and you will think you can’t move on with your life but somewhere inside you you’ll move forward. You will wish the best for everyone. You will understand why some friendships have to end and others must begin.

Keep Getting Back Up

Your life will change in so many ways, each time something bad happens do NOT believe it can’t get worse, trust me, it can and it will for a long time. Every time your life seems to get on track it will get derailed. I would say try to save money and not let everything get spent but there is nothing you can do. Don’t beat yourself up over it because trust me, you will and it won’t do anyone any good.

Dear Younger Self, Remember Your Life is Already Planned for You. Just Live it.

My advice to you is just to live life, try and be happy. I don’t recommend changing anything because those five kids you have there are great and you know how I believe. Changing one thing, changes everything. You’ll end up in places you wish you weren’t, you’ll wish for things you don’t have and eventually it’ll all work out how it is suppose to work out, the only bad thing is you will never know when or how that is suppose to be. Sorry I’m not much of an optimistic person like we use to be but I’ve learned life throws you lemons and when it does it hurts, but eventually you start using those lemons to your advantage.

32 thoughts on “Letter To My Younger Self

  1. This is a wonderful post. I think we all wish we could send a letter to our younger selves. I know it would have definitely helped me!

  2. I love that you wrote a letter to your younger self. This is something that I should do.

  3. I feel the same way you do about our paths to today. As painful as some of the times were, they lead us to where we need to be.

  4. Robin (Masshole Mommy) says:

    I love your letter. There are so many things I would have done differently had I known then what I know now.

  5. There are always detours in our path to what our lives will be.. i have taken so many turns i get dizzy.. but i know there is a path for all of us and yours is a great path!!

  6. I love this, we have a friend that also wrote a letter to her first daughter when they found out they were pregnant with a second child (which turned out to be twins!) It was super sweat.

  7. michele d says:

    I wish that I could write a letter to my younger self. It certainly would of gave me some direction in life. Thanks for sharing your post.

  8. I’m not sure I could publish a letter to my younger self, I think it would be too personal…which is saying a LOT

    I applaud you for being so open with us.

  9. Sometimes our journeys are rough, but we get to where we need to be. Everything happens for a reason!

  10. Thank you. I am so glad someone knows what I mean by this. I’ve been asked a dozen times if I ever regretted something or if I wish I’d done something different but to me if you change one thing you could change everything.

  11. If only we could speak to our younger selves i wonder what i would say. I love your letter.

  12. Mama to 5 BLessings says:

    What a great idea to write a letter to yourself. I so need to do this and then look back on the mistakes, etc.

  13. This is a wonderful letter. I sometimes say I wish I could go back and tell myself to do different things in life. But I have also come to realize, if not for the mistakes I have made I would not be where I am today.

  14. Wow, I really enjoyed that post. If we could only send letters to our younger selves and tell them not to worry so much, that everythng will work out as it needs to…

  15. Gosh, If I would write to myself ten years ago I wouldn’t believe me at all! It’s amazing how far you can go in such a short amount of time!

  16. Writing to your younger self just shows how much you matured over the years. I’m sure all those trials were worth it and especially that you have 5 kids for a blessing.

  17. Elizabeth O. says:

    Writing to your younger self is therapeutic. It clears your mind.

  18. Aisha Kristine Chong says:

    Wow.. this is actually such a great idea – loved it.

  19. You have a beautiful family. I enjoyed your honest and heartfelt post. We all go through things in life that make or break us and it’s great to see you didn’t let them break you.

  20. Rebecca Swenor says:

    I love this of writing to your younger self. It is a great way to see how much you grew and appreciate what you have experienced. Thanks for sharing.

  21. I think it’s so cool that you wrote a letter to your younger self. Things always turn out so much differently than we expect them to, that’s for sure.

  22. I could say honestly that this letter to your self is really inspiring and at the sam time, it will makes you more connected and stronger to your family ties. Wish you all the best with your family and you are a great mom, inside and outside.

  23. What a wonderful post. I love the advice you gave to your younger self. You can be very proud of yourself.

  24. Oh wow, what a concept that would be. I’m going to try it myself. Maybe I could find out where I went wrong, but hopefully where I went right. Oh yeah, thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  25. Margarita Ibbott (@DownshiftingPRO) says:

    THAT was an amazing blog post. Honest and raw and always interesting. So good advice: don’t regret, don’t look back at life unfavorably because it made you the mother of 5.

  26. What a great letter to yourself. I wrote one to myself a few years back. I did join the Coast Guard and served for 5 years I have been out 3 now.

  27. There are a few things that I could have done differently when I was younger. However, I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason.

  28. Amanda Love says:

    I love reading these letters to your younger selves. I wonder if I had known what I know now if I would have changed anything?

  29. Grace | A Shutterbug's Lair says:

    Awww.. nice idea.. Love to do this too! 🙂

  30. What a great idea! It really makes you think about you thought of yourself and where you would be when you were younger.

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